Benefits of Overcoming Your Fears

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Fear. We all have them. Yes, even me. I've recently had a moment where I feared putting a hold on my novels to focus on Smart B*tch. I've already written eight, but have many more to finish. And, although I've imposed upon myself deadlines, I've also reminded myself that it's okay to change them.

You see, fear is the brain's way of telling us to be careful. Aww, what a nice brain. But, sometimes we go a little overboard with our fears. We end up limiting our goals and dreams due to the cluster of fears we harbor.

And, what do you think happens when we let our fears take over our entire life? I'll tell you, we miss out on being our greatest self.  So, you end up going through life being a mediocre version of yourself. Whaaaat? Yeah, I know, wtf.

Hence, the hold on the novels. I love writing. I'm a writer. That will never change. But, I'm also in love with Smart B*tch. The idea for Smart B*tch has been brewing in my head for almost three years. I purchased the domain name three years ago, but wasn't clear on how to create the vision I had in my head.

Until now.

 

"Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it."

--Judy Blume

 

So, in the end, I benefited from my fears. How? I've spent the last three years, planning. But, good planning isn't the only way you can benefit from your fears. 

Fear helps to motivate you to analyze. You can analyze what you're afraid of and why.  You weigh your options and choose the next best course of action. Isn't that fabulous?

The next benefit of overcoming your fear is gaining power over them!

When you realize your potential in facing your fears you'll not only gain knowledge, but you'll also begin to trust and believe in yourself and you'll worry less about what others think of you. #bossbitch!! Fear of failure will no longer exist. You'll become more assertive in going after your goals and you'll actually be motivated to do anything.

 

One great way to overcome your fears is by writing them down. 

Writing puts the fear outside our mind. When the fear is outside our mind, we can separate ourselves from the chaos of it and gives us a new perspective. Don't just limit yourself to simply writing down your fear, write down why you're afraid and ways you can overcome each particular fear. 

For example, if your dream is to teach english overseas, and you're afraid to make this big leap, write down the fear. Analyze all the what ifs. You'd probably be afraid of moving to a foreign country where you don't know anyone. So, you'd write down ways to make new friends. You'd probably be scared of learning a new culture. You'd write down a step by step plan on adapting to said culture (learn the language, research the culture, etc) You'd probably even be scared of what your friends and family might say. You'd then, find creative ways to break the news, while making them feel safe in knowing that you've researched your decision.

Fear is natural. But fear is also useless.

Don't live a life full of fear. That's not living.

So, next time you feel fear creeping up on you, take a step back. And then, analyze and write it out. 

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